Day 203. The Secret Powers of Time

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So it was Easter yesterday, a really nice one. I sometimes forget how lucky I am that my family members can be mature enough to skip past hurt feelings and slights from divorces and what have you to find themselves en masse in a restaurant celebrating without tension, in fact with a lot of love, at least the way we do it. I knew it would be a good one when my sister-in-law, my brother’s ex (she remains my sister-in-law for good) called to say she wanted to make sure she had a family holiday to have the kids celebrate with us. Then, when my stepmother came in she said, “Oh, let me make sure I get a seat by Carol (my mom).” They are the matriarchs of this ragtag group.

Knowing this camaraderie exists makes me feel so solid, kind of the opposite of anxiety, which one could so easily get when all these people mix, who potentially might not get along at all.

I seated myself at the end of the table, down with the kids and my brother Jacob, who is no longer a kid. He’s the one in the picture with the horn-rimmed glasses (that’s my dad on the other side). Jake and I had a really good time talking. He’s so cool, getting ready to go to go to Prague on a study abroad trip where he will be learning about and visiting the concentration camps there and in Poland, all for a class on the psychology of the Holocaust. Makes me want to go back to college and start all over again. Ah, youth. Ah, school.

Moving on, my reason for writing today has to do with time. Actually, I’m doing a re-blog today. I encountered a video and discussion on the secret powers of time and was struck by so many points. First of all, just the notion of the secret powers of time seems so relevant to the overall theme of my blog. The idea that time has power over everything we do is extremely poignant, for someone who may be counting down the last 200 days of her life.

Not only that, but also in my doctoral research I was strongly interested in the concept of place; the discussion in this reblog offers a compelling argument for the social and moral reasons for the intersection of place and time.

I’m not doing this blog entry justice by hinting around at its contents. Below is a link. If you take ten minutes to watch the whole video, you will not regret it. I want to know what you think, so I will be looking for your comments: this means you ——–, ———, and ————. I could name names, but I won’t. You who never comment but have so much to say, do share your wealth of wisdom.

Just don’t use the excuse that you don’t have time.

The Secret Powers of Time

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6 thoughts on “Day 203. The Secret Powers of Time

  1. So Heidi, the question for you is- when there is a perceived imminent limit to our timeline, do we focus on future-oriented: getting the most things done (acknowledging the physical limits on our stamina); or do we focus on present-hedonistic: getting the most out of any one experience? Does our intent match our instinctual actions? Can we control the power of time?

    • This (Cathy, and Lana) is what I battle with myself about all the time. The force of my instinctual behavior, which is to plan ahead propels me. I forget to focus on those present-hedonistic activities that I WANT myself to focus on. I think I SHOULD focus more on those sorts of activities. I’m so innately wired the wrong way for the present-hedonistic thinking that I can’t come up with much of a bucket list when I try to think of one. I haven’t touched my retirement money. What for? Isn’t that absurd? I only really think of it at tax time. I think that upbringing is very cultural; I spent a lot of time living with conservative Midwest grandparents who grew up in the Depression. ‘Nuff said?

  2. I love this, and I wonder where you place yourself. One thing I love about this is that it articulates something I’ve found difficult to explain to people: I identify as culturally Catholic (it’s even listed under religion, on my FB profile) but have always found it impossible to explain to anyone who wasn’t raised Catholic what this even means. It’s more than just the fact that I do like some of the rituals and routine – this video presentation nails it: my perception of time is very, very Catholic.

  3. Heidi, First, your relationship with your family is outstanding and it’s obvious you share the appreciation for closeness and unconditional love for your amazing mother, father and brother. The video is great and I will be viewing it again! Time is all we have on this earth. No one knows when our time is up…but it’s interesting on the theories of how we use our time. Thanks for sharing this. Edie

    • Edie–Thank you! I really am so lucky! You didn’t get to see my fantastic stepdad in there or my big brother–or any of my step sisters–the list goes on and on and on. It takes work to get along. Lots of families don’t get along.
      Thanks for reading, Edie!

  4. That video was great. I watched it right after i read your post the first time and it gave me a lot to chew on so I didn’t leave a comment right away. As a matter of fact, I’m still not sure how to articulate what I thought about it. I will say that I’m a past-focused negative and working on becoming present oriented but in neither of the ways he described. I want to be selflessly hedonistic (yep, you read that right) and willing to accept fate but with the belief that like justice, it bends towards good.

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